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llen’s vast knowledge of social stationery etiquette is called upon time and again by clients and event industry professionals to ensure
gracious inviting. Below is a short list of DO’s and DONT’s to guide you. We discuss specific addressing questions
in “The Guest List” section.

DO:  Send a Save the Date
This will alert your guests to the exact date of your event and the location; whether destination or in your hometown. Include overnight accommodation information for those guests who may be traveling. This provides adequate time to purchase tickets and reserve lodging.
DO:  Create hardcopy invitations
The digital age has brought amazing opportunities to communicate instantly with friends and family. However, there is nothing like receiving an invitation in the mail. The invitation provides the first impression of your most special occasion; you want this moment to be meaningful and unforgettable.

DO:  Hand address your invitations
Calligraphy, or at the very least, nice handwriting, lends a personal touch to social correspondence. Your guests will note you took the extra time. And, be sure to triple check your list; no guest’s name should be misspelled, and having the correct zip code is very important for a timely delivery.

DO:  Use handwritten thank you notes
Thank you notes for wedding gifts should be mailed no later than 2 months following receipt of a gift. Although some etiquette experts allow more time, the sooner you write them, the sooner your friends and family will know how much you appreciate the thought and care that went into the gift. All other thank you notes for gift giving occasions should be sent within a week or two at most. An email thank you can be used for attendance at dinner parties, but there really is no substitute for a hand written note, especially on personalized stationery.

DO:  Indicate "no-children" if desired
As the host, it is your prerogative to have an adult only event. The most polite way to request this is to include a separate card stating “Respectfully, no children.”

DO NOT:  Include registry information in a wedding invitation
The best place to share registry information is in a wedding website or by having a few people closest to you spread the word. Those guests who wish to purchase something from your registry will inquire. No matter what you do, you will always receive a garden gnome or wedding bell music box from someone, even if you do provide the registry details.

DO NOT:  Number reply cards as an attempt to avoid unaccounted for RSVPs
You run the risk of a guest interpreting this number as their level of importance in your life. As an alternative, you can fill in a guest’s name on each reply card, further personalizing the invitation.

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